Honoring Our FATHER with our obedience pt 8
I have seen and been personally involved with families whose Fathers / Men have taken a “passive / non-involved / hands-off” approach to parenting. For whatever reason, they left the parenting, discipline and child rearing up to their wives, other family members and/ or those who are helping with the raising of THEIR children. There were some Father’s / Men who felt overwhelmed and who have just simply shut down or even walk out on their families. The wife is left to fend and care for everything and the children feel abandoned and unloved. The Father / Man may not mean for these things to happen or for these feelings to be there, but they are.
The devastation in families happen when the Husband / Man / Father has chosen to be “willfully blind” and “claiming ignorance” concerning the emotional / physical / spiritual state of their households. The results range from children dying, being neglected, mistreated and / or many who are left dealing with behavioral issues. (This is directly related to the dynamics within the family. The children were directly affected, because they are spiritually covered by their own parents).
1Co_7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
1Ti 3:4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
1Ti 3:5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
A Father /Man cannot both actively be “ruling” his own house and be passive / willfully blind / ignorant / or too busy…all at the same time. He is either ruling and reigning over his house or he is not. If he is not then…he is in direct disobedient / rebellion to his Father (God).
Zec 11:17 Woe to the idol shepherd that leaveth the flock! the sword shall be upon his arm, and upon his right eye: his arm shall be clean dried up, and his right eye shall be utterly darkened.
Physical, emotional and spiritual issues are directly affected by our relationship that we all have with Our Heavenly Father; but I find that this holds much truth concerning our relationships we have with our earthly fathers as well. When Husbands / Fathers / Men leave the parenting, household chores, discipline, child rearing etc, for others to do; they are missing out, giving up and giving away, an anointing that Their Heavenly Father has bestowed on them. Their children and the people whom are counting on them are missing out on a great blessing. Because Husbands / Fathers / Men are a blessing from the Lord.
There is nothing more important to a marriage and / or a family than a Father / Man who will: put God first, all the while walking the plan, purpose and directions out that God has given him for his family and for himself. By rightfully taking charge of his own household and taking ownership of what has been entrusted to him, His covering and headship role is seen and felt by all who come into his life. As he continues to put God first and obey; He will ultimately fulfill the assignment on not just his life, but helping his family to fulfill God’s will for their lives as well.
Lets take the time to pray for, lift up and acknowledge the Men in our lives. Those who have been placed over us; as our covering: Fathers, Husbands, Pastors etc… Encouraging them to be all that they are called to be.